Step 1: Understanding Your Goals
When it comes to building strong habits , there are a few key things to keep in mind. First, it’s important to be clear about what your goals are. What are you hoping to achieve by establishing this new habit? Once you have a clear goal in mind, it will be easier to stay motivated and on track. Here is a list of the best selling books (NOT IN ORDER) for this specific step for creating strong habits, which is first knowing what your goals are.
1. The Book of Mistakes: 9 Secrets to Creating a Successful Future – Skip Prichard
Unlike many people, Mr. Prichard uses his storytelling gifts to identify the nine mistakes that highly successful people avoid. For example, one common mistake is living someone else’s dream instead of pursuing one’s own. To be truly successful, it is critical to know exactly who you want to be and then do what that person would do.
“Expressing thankfulness energizes, enhances, and empowers.”
“Make it your mission to encourage everyone who crosses your path.”
“Suffering often clarifies what really matters in life.”
2. Your Best Year Ever: A 5-Step Plan for Achieving Your Most Important Goals – Michael Hyatt
Michael Hyatt’s book “Your Best Year Ever” lays out a clear, research-based approach to finding purpose and setting meaningful goals. Whether it’s a personal, relationship, business, or financial goal, Hyatt’s field-tested results can help people overcome their day-to-day struggles to reach their full potential. This book provides ways to envision the reader’s best year ever, including how to get unstuck and “quit proof” the goals.
“While history may not repeat itself, it often follows similar patterns”.
“When we strive for what seems to be impossible, we sometimes achieve the impossible”.
“Even when we don’t reach our goal, we usually do better than we would have without trying”.
3. Nine Things Successful People Do Differently – Heidi Grant Halvorson
Heidi Grant Halvorson’s book, “9 Things Successful People Do Differently,” outlines the 9 things successful people do differently based on her research.
- When it comes to goal-setting, it’s important to be specific.
- Now is the time to take action and achieve your goals.
- Clearly understand where the goal line is.
- Possess a grounded optimism.
- Instead than concentrating on being good, strive to improve.
- To achieve long-term goals, you need to be willing to commit to them and persevere through difficulties. This requires grit.
- Develop your willpower.
- Avoid tempting fate
- Concentrate on the future.
In this read, the author covers nine topics in detail. These topics can help readers improve their goal-achieving skills by focusing on what they can do and what they are willing to do. For example, readers can learn how to create alternatives to activities they don’t want to do and replace them with activities that they are willing to do. This can help them get closer to achieving their goals in life.
3. Big Potential: Five Secrets of Reaching Higher by Powering Those Around You – Shawn Anchor
In this book, the importance of working as a team is emphasized. Mr. Anchor emphasizes the distinction between enormous potential, which is achievement with others, and tiny potential, which is solitary achievement.
We are all influenced by those around us, and when we make someone else better, they make their surroundings better as well, increasing the potential.
4. The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul – Danielle LaPorte
This book is a slightly different path from the previous material.
This book takes a slightly different approach from the previous material. Danielle Laporte’s book is a program for goal setting that focuses on getting in touch with your feelings and letting the outer goal achievement grow from there. The work is a life focus for goal setting that allows purpose to play a role in motivation.
“I love this woman, her book, and her planners. (And she’s generous. Free downloads of her ebook, audio, and app. But she doesn’t offer them all the time, so catch them while you can.) I’ve got both the kindle and the physical version of this book. I love her style. She’s edgy yet a softy. Straight to the point, yet wordy. Real, raw, imperfect, and directive without being “my way or the highway” about it. My kind of human!”
– Amazon Purchase
5. Hard Goals: The Secret to Getting From Where You Are To Where You Want To Be – Mark Murphy
This book looks at goal setting from the perspective of well-accomplished executive coach Mark Murphy. His belief is that in order to achieve great things, goals must be more than simply “ho-hum” – they need to reflect a deeper inner desire. If you want to change the world, you need to set a goal that would change the world. Goals that challenge and stretch a person are said to be more fulfilling.
“While there’s no silver bullet for outrageous success, there are tools, systems and secrets that make it a lot easier.”
– Amazon Purchase
6. How To Win Friends And Influence People – Dale Carnegie and Digital Fire
Since its publication in 1936, this timeless book has assisted readers in realizing their aspirations. In the contemporary, technological environment, the information is still current.
Many well-known people have reached their full potential and achieved mastery in goal-setting and achievement because to Dale Carnegie’s teachings.
Step 2: 1% better a day
It’s important to start small. If you’re trying to establish a new exercise routine, for example, don’t try to do too much too soon. Start with just a few minutes of exercise each day, and gradually increase the amount of time you spend working out as your body adjusts. At this state you will soon realize that there is a lot to learn about your current habits and that is the habit loop. The Habit loop consist of 3 stages:
Cue phase: The mind is aware of its environment, you are in a position where you now find yourself familiar with a reward that you seem to be familiar with and the mind subconsciously initiates a behavior that leads to craving. The urge of the craving is what gasoline is to a car, which is behind every habit. Giving you the ability to now take action.
A perfect example for any teenager, getting home from school, taking your backpack off and you jump straight to the video game. What happens there exactly is that you recognize the environment ( home ) and now your cue is knowing you get to play video games, instead of doing your homework, which the majority of us forget to do it!
Routine phase: Adjust your routine to receive the reward you want! The difference between routines and habits is a simple fact that routines are intentional and habits are automatic.
Reward phase: Every habit has as its endpoint the reward. The reward is noticed by the cue, desired by the craving, and obtained by the response. Why does our brain want these rewards? These rewards tend to be the reason why we are failing math, not being the best person we could be. The reality is that most people reading this right now is looking for change, because our rewards are not healthy now, we look to get better and in doing that one needs to realize that these rewards are unhealthy and will need new ones to replace the old ones. Rewards are the reason for our crave.
Step 3: Patience and Consistency
Finally, be patient. It takes time to build a new habit, so don’t get discouraged if you don’t see results immediately. Just keep at it, and eventually, it will become second nature. Researchers at University College London found out that creating habits takes approximately 66 days until one’s new habit becomes muscle memory.
